Anger In Grief

We don’t really like to talk about it because it makes us uncomfortable, but grief oftentimes presents as anger. Why did Hope have to die? Why can’t I have her? What point is there to this tragedy? Why couldn’t one thing have been different to change the outcome of the accident? If only...

Well, you get the idea. It is hard to know how to express that anger in a healthy manner. So here is our anger therapy - breaking ugly plates that we bought at a thrift store. If you are experiencing anger in your grief, I hope you can find a healthy outlet for it. Maybe some thrift store plates are in your future.

I will never forget one day early on after Hope died that I thought I needed to do something. I wanted to find something "safe" to do that wouldn't stir up memories and sadness and so I settled on vacuuming. Well, I was wrong; it definitely stirred up memories of my sweet Hope of vacuuming around her as she laid on the dining room floor playing on her laptop. Which in turn, brought on an onslaught of railing towards God about why He didn't intervene in my precious Hope's accident. Why couldn't we still have her? I yelled at Him the entire time I vacuumed the house (and may have actually gone over several places twice so I could continue yelling in hopes the vacuum would drown out my yelling to my neighbors). It was definitely one time that I could tap into that anger honestly. It seems to get harder to express over time even though the anger is still there.